iHustle Guest contributor
Mr. Maco Faniel
On her MTV Unplugged album, Lauryn Hill said that “Fantasy is what we want, but reality is what we need”.
At times we are like Rip Van Winkle. Do you remember this story? It was written during the American Revolution and is part of what is called Romantic writing. In this form of writing we get the happily ever after motifs, and the characters are allowed to escape to a world devoid of the present and past realities. Rip Van Winkle created a fantasy to help him cope with his present and past reality. His present reality was filled with turmoil: work was jacked, his pockets were low, he had a drinking problem, he wandered off, he was loved by everyone except for the person who mattered the most, his wife. To escape these challenges and situations, Rip proclaimed that the day was good, he wandered off, had fun, and fell asleep. He awoke 20 years later to find out that life had changed, his wife had died, his friends were dead, and due to war the social and political way of life no longer existed in his village. His fantasy allowed him to escape reality, to avoid the pain and be comfortable in the moment, but due to his fantasy he missed out on real life.
Hmm. What fantasy are you creating or have you created that allows you to escape reality? Is it the happily ever after fantasy that paints a picture of a perfect world devoid of conflict? So focused on this fantasy that every episode that we face in life must look like this fantasy. So focused on the fantasy of love, that we miss love because we fail to forgive. So focused on the fantasy job, that we never gain valuable experience and skills that lead us to perfection. So focused on the fantasy church, that we fail to truly experience God and God’s people. So focused on the fantasy kids, that we fail to nurture the gifts that our own kids possess. So focused on the fantasy that we miss the moment, and miss real life happening.
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