I agree with the majority of what you said. My issue isn’t with what you are saying because for the most part it’s true, but if you are going to refer to the bible to help you define what marriage is, which you should, then you need to watch the the vulgarity, because people will not take you at your word even though you are speaking life to them
“But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.”
A lot of truth to what has been spoken.. God needs to be in the midst to allow proper decision making to take place…
WORD…….What you said is a 100% correct. need 2 keep this video 4 my kids to watch!
yo…this is real…and the 3 month thing would definitely help some people out. the only reason someone would get angry, is if they were doing the most.
“the aids is just chilling”..is kinda classic.
I agree on everything that you are saying but GOD does need to be in the mist of this all….not attacking you or anything but just BE CAREFUL of the words you use to get threw to people b/c if you are cussing then the first thing people say is ” who is listening to him? He is talkin about things in the Bible but cussing!” JAMES 3:10 OUT OF THE SAME MOUTH COME PRAISE AND CURSING. MY BROTHERS , THIS SHOULD NOT BE.
Just curious. Are YOU married?
yeah, ditch the curse words bro! You will still make sense
just to add to what other people mentioned about God, i noticed that you made reference to God a lot. you seem like a good person who enjoys telling the truth, but that alone does not guarantee us our space in Heaven..we need to be born again and believe that Jesus Christ died for our sins….
having mentioned that, the message is quite on point.
What advice do you have for single brothers and sisters who have children and are trying to get potential mates?
Second, what would make a 30 yr old single man with no kids, a decent job, nice car, and good looks, fall for a 38 yr old, woman whos non educated,single parent of 3 and a grandbaby, who has resided in all the major hoods in Houston, no car, and no class…….straight HOODRAT? Please tell me who’s doing the most in this situation? They live together, but he’s complaining and trying to get at me……I’m everything she’s not, and i’ve vowed to never “do the most” but it makes me say hhhmmm?
You are right….and you give good principles. These morals originate from the bible…but we can not expect people living in the flesh (as you mentioned in one of your other videos) to actually abide by these guidelines. Only the Holy Spirit given to those who place their faith in Jesus Christ will come close to executing this type of lifestyle. These things are common sense, but the Enemy rules this world and those without God are left with two much temptation, and two little of God’s word hidden in their hearts to survive.
Also, I need to mention that you can not pick and choose which parts of Christianity or the bible you will choose to abide by. I really find it confusing and disturbing when people say they are christians but condone behavior that it forbids? In your words…”it just don’t work that way”. So if you are quoting the bible and Jesus just as you would quote Ghandi and Buddha, then that it fine. But for anyone to claim….I know the God of the bible, yet you believe things like….all roads and religions lead to God, or fornication is ok as long as you use a condom….hey you are not a Christian at all….you do not take on all the beliefs of Christ. And BTW he never asked us to be perfect…..you could fornicate, or lie, or cheat everyday but if you AGREE or CONFESS your sins God is faithful and just to forgive you. That’s the beauty of Faith in Christ….you don’t have to live a “Good” life to get to heaven….you just have to believe AND that means take on all the beliefs of the bible.
Whatever to all this other BULLCHIT ↑ above…I’m gonna do whatever I can to support this guy!!! Folks ain’t ready…
I think that there is a lot of TRUTH to what he is saying! So many people try and play house when they dont have any business doing so! I loved this blog, keep up the good work
All I want to know is “what is marriage?”
THis was great so many people get it twisted if we followed some of these things it would be a lot less broken bitter people.
You know people are so funny with the Christian-ness. I am Christian far from perfect. Your message is REAL, your cuss words show me that you are just being you, and in truth makes it easier for me to relate to you. Not preachy just one of the boys making a good point. Jesus knows I cuss and He loves me still. LOL!
The truth hurts and honey I’m in pain over here! I needed hear that, you are speaking the truth. Keep it up!
Thank you Lewis, This came right on time… I needed to hear this b/c I have been there and still find myself going back..This message helped me to to take my power back!Keep up the realness and the good work..Love your accent by the way…
Hey Lewis,Your analogy is right on point. I don’t see what was wrong with what you said, some people don’t want to hear or listen to the truth because it hurts but the truth shall set individuals free from every uncertainties of life. Its very hard now for people to include the word of God in daily lives, when individuals like you lewis put the word of God in daily understanding then I know that the word of God will always be the TRUTH, the WAY and the LIFE. It just brings so much happiness in my heart, I never heard about you until one of my friends on facebook put up one of your videos on facebook yesterday. The bottom line is, please keep speaking the truth because there are some people out there that wants to find the truth in nothing but lies and in worldly things which all is vanity. Pay no attention to no one….BLESSED ARE THOSE WHO ARE PERSECUTED BECAUSE OF RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR THEIR IS THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN (Matt ch5 vs 10). God Bless.
I completely agree with everything you said. I lived this before I got married.
Before I got married, I was single. The day before I got married, I was single.
No, I did not cook for my husband before we got married. I didn’t do his laundry. I didn’t clean his house. I didn’t live with him. Etc. Etc.
But the day I married him, all of that changed because for me there was a clear difference between what I would do for a boyfriend and what I would do for a husband, and I had a lot of boyfriends.
Obviously, everyone is different, but that’s what worked for me. I’ve been married 14 years after only knowing him for 6 weeks.
Hit me on facebook,or email me on yahoo Lewis.. I would love to cosign further, from a woman’s perspective.
Actually, he had a lot of valid points. The only one that I didn’t really agree with is not being around each other. You have to lay around each other just to see if you can stand em. If you are not constanly with each other, then you are going to miss a lot of flaws.
When I say lay around, I am not speaking about sleeping with each other. I mean just sitting around and carrying on a conversation. So that when you have your three month evaluation test, you can put things on the table. You can make an informed decision on if you want to continue with the person.
I believe that when you date someone, you are not dating just to date which a lot of people do but you are looking at this person as a potential husband or wife. And if I can’t hang with you for a few hours without thinking don’t you have something else to do on a constant basis, then there is no need to wiat for the three months. Release them.
Dude this was some good shyt. There wasn’t a point I didn’t agree with, because I share and practice most if not all of these points in some way…..people need to watch this video for what he is saying not to critique the presentation.
I agree with you 1000%, I just wish I could have heard this advice 5 years ago and saved myself the pain and heartache, especially at the 4:57min and 9:00min marks.
I love this dude! You speak the truth.
Hi Lewis,I was introduced to your video on facebook. I would like to hear your points of view on other topics as well, I thought you were dead on concerning the topic of dating, single and married. I am so impressed with what you spoke, I have shared the video with my FB friends and have encouraged them to view it…I know there are a lot of people who could benefit from hearing your words…Oh and dont be concerned about who likes you for what you are saying. We sometimes dont like what is good for us. It can be a hard pill to swallow for many people because their character or lifestyle is being indicted and they are convicted by what they hear. God works that way also. He will convict you with the Word. The Word of God cuts sharp like a knife. That wont always feel good, but you will be better for hearing it and stronger for receiving it.
I am not mad at you. Now for the people that had an issue with the cursing, he is just keepin’ it real. He curses, you may smoke, lie etc it is all relative. We all have our own crosses to carry. You are really right about the relationship thing. Treat it like a job and learn to keep it movin’! At your job you have probationary periods, and annual evaluations. We should put some of those methods into practice in our relationships. It is REALLY difficult to break up with folks especially when you are in love but you can’t and shouldn’t be miserable for a moment longer then you have to.
I would like to preface my comment with wanting you to know this is simply constructive criticism and nothing more. Though I agree with your point-of-view, I believe you should have someone critique your work prior to submission considering you have a fairly large audience base. What I believe to be your latest video states “If your not married, your single.” In essence, it should read “If you are not married, you are single.” Or “If you’re not married, you’re single.” Facebook is a forum I believe is not taken very seriously; however, your website should not contain any grammatical errors. Especially bearing in mind you are on your hustle, i.e. iHustle Network.
I thought your statement was on point. I was cheering you on the whole time! I would agree with others though, that your witness can be limited when you use obsenities. Otherwise, I just enjoyed the honest commentary…….
One grammatical correction: in your title for this video, “your” should be “you’re”…just FYI
Boy u are on the ball!!!!! and funny 2!!
Unlike most women in the world, my #1 goal in life is not to be married.
I listened to what you said, and I know plenty of married people committing the same acts who are unhappy. People have to be secure with themselves before they can be good for anyone. I believe that as long as two people are committed to each other for the right reasons and have open communication, you don’t need a label for that.
And for the record, no, I’m not married, never have been, and never intend to be. And it’s not because I haven’t had the opportunity (I’ve been asked three times). I feel that for ME, marriage is not necessary. People need to do what works for them and marriage isn’t the answer for everyone. At the end of the day, DO YOU and be happy.
And stop putting folks on trial because they don’t want to be married. It’s a lifestyle choice.
I agree 100% with what you are saying… but ease up on those cuss words…and keep up the good work.
Thing is, your advice has to be CONSISTENT. The TRUTH in this video doesn’t vibe with your advice in “How not to screw up a home visit”, etc.
i love this video you were on point thank you and i am now a very big fan of yours God Bless
i am putting this video on my facebook page…he is keeping it real,,,for real
I agree with everything you said. This is great stuff! Hopefully people will take heed to this.
Mr. Williams is not cursing! He is using profanity. There is a huge difference and important to know definition before judging one anotherfrom Merriam-WebsterCURSING 1 : to use profanely insolent language against blaspheme2 a : to call upon divine or supernatural power to send injury upon b : to execrate in fervent and often profane terms3 : to bring great evil upon : afflict
WHAT U SAYING IS TRUE.. EVERY BODY WANTS TO BE HOLY NOW BECAUSE U PROBABLY STEP ON SOME TOES AND THEY AROUND HERE PLAYING HOUSE..
A friend of mine sent this video to me & I actually took the time to find you so I could say, Amen. I’m married and have been for 10 and 1/2 years, but this was my mantra before I was married. I’m wondering if it would be wrong to send this video to a few friends. They all ask me what they are doing wrong & I don’t know what to say. Now I’m thinking I’ll just send them the video.
I wish I could send this video to Junior High, High Schools and Colleges all over the country. This brother is so on point. If people would take heed many unplanned pregnancies, bad courtships and horrible marriages would be avoided. There is much wisdom in his words.
Mr Lewis everyone is entitiled to their opinion, pls keep being real. Most of these hypocrites that frown at u cussing, i bet you they cuss, even if it’s in their mind. I learnt from you today….and i thank you for that.
This message was ok, i still think you should watch how you come off to people. The rudeness in your voice has got to go.
Now my point of leaving a comment is this:You are saying what marital acts are. Having sex without a condom, you said was a marital act. But, having sex altogether is a marital act. So i think you should jus clear that up. Because according to the BIBLE we aren’t supposed to be participating in pre-marital sex at all, fornication is the word.
I am in agreement with most everything you said. I was just in a situation in which a guy that I was dating for less than three months no longer wanted to wait to have sex. He pressed so hard that I felt it was a demand. He felt that at that time its was a natural step and a key part to the development of the relationship. Perhaps, yes, if we are talking about the physical only. I wanted to wait until marriage or at the very least until I got to know him better. I told him that I’m not your wife and I’m not obligated to you. He didn’t like that, of course.
I totally agree on what u said BUT….. i must say that my husband and i happened to be living together for a year b4 we go married so would u still consider that shacking up??? (we were engaged tho) and we have a loving, understanding, trustworthy relationship.
I LOVED IT!!! And I am a christian and his rawness is definitely what some people need to hear!!!!!!!
I’m ready for him to give the marriage preparation talk. I refuse to marry someone who doesn’t share my spiritual beliefs, isn’t working on some sort of career goals, isn’t financially secure and so on and so forth. I heard him mention that credit score and i almost got wet… LOL
I love this. I have been saying some of those things for years. Not that I have not been guilty of some of those things but I understand now more than ever exactly what a relationship is. I wish you would speak on “Unspoken Agreemets.” It is on the other end of the spectrum.
You speak the truth! I’m a woman, and I totally agree! I’m sending the link for your page to all of my friends. Thanks for telling it like it is!
This was a great post, and man, you told it like it is, or at least how it should be for most people. Course, I keep wondering what’s with all the people quoting bible verses at you, as if you crossed a line or something and they now have to fix you. Great opinion; keep it up.
So why have a “boyfriend” or “girlfreind” then?
I love what you have to say. I am now a FAN of your blog. Keep up the good work! KNOWLEDGE is POWER!
well actually this stuff is mainly Common Sense just like Steve Harvey’s book. People need to use more common sense.
You are definitely a friend in my head. Where have you been? When you are doing the most you do get upset. Just watch your tone for the most part but I can understand the frustration that you are experiencing.
THE TRUTH AND NOTHIN MORE!!! YOUR GREAT LEWIS!!!
I love this. It is nothing but the truth. You are amazing.
You’re funny. I just heard about you today. Listened to your video blogs and they are hillarious. I agree with you 99.9%. Keep it up. Thanks !
I SAID THE EXACT SAME THING… Thank you, because I’m tired of people trying to sugar coat the truth…
When I file my taxes, I don’t file “In a relationship” as my filing status. Nor do I have an option to select “Shacking up” and “buying a house together w/out a permanent commitment” either. This is one of the biggest games in the book…
I AM NOT MARRIED, so you BETTER BELIEVE I’M SINGLE OR NOTHING IS SELECTED…
hey Lewis where the helll were you at 8yrs ago…. I could have def. used this video. Like you said this was a reality check for me…. I was def. doing to much I mean too too much. I just would like to thank you you have no idea just how much this ha changed me, motivated me and help me I appericate it a lot keep on speaking the truth
Lewis, you are on point with most of what you said. As someone else commented, you have to remove the contradiction such as "spending the night.". Also if you were to get rid of the cursing, people will be able to receive you without having an opportunity to refute what you saying. Besides that you have spoken a lot of truth and life.
I love this video and the message is definitely on point. I’m going to show this to my sons because these are the discussions I am now having with them and I think they could definitely relate to the way it is expressed in this video. As for the cursing…and the comment that you can’t choose which parts of the bible to follow…in all my years of living I have not met one single solitary person who has followed every rule, instruction, or commandment in the Bible. There is only one who was/is perfect. So, I think that when people pass this kind of judgement it is hypocritical because they cast off the impression of perfection on their part. Whatever your sin is…it is no greater or smaller than his cursing. So take the message for what it is, it is not a vulgar or disrespectful message. He expresses himself in the way that he is comfortable for him and ultimately it is up to you to listen or not listen, but not up to you to judge or instruct him on how he should change himself. I don’t see one person who lost the message he was giving because he cursed. If cursing is something that he needs to improve, trust that God doesn’t need any other sinners to instruct him of the need for this change via his blog. That in itself to me is very egotistical to think that if you don’t tell him he has to change and follow all the commandments of the bilble…then he will somehow be lost without you. Trust me when I tell you…you’ll meet folk in Heavan that have sinned…if you get there…because none of us are without sin. It doesn’t make our relationships with God any less relevant or any less meaningful. That’s just my 5 cents. Keep doing what you do…it’s apparent a lot of people love to listen and are even learning a thing or two from your point of view.
Best part: "Pretty much.. if he hasn’t put a ring on you you are pretty much single.. it’s not gunna work"… boy I couldn’t have laughed harder. Wow. Confirmation. Thank you LORD. I knew I waddn’t crazy. That’s doing the most..
SLAP! "If your are doing marital acts, and your not married — then you’re dumb.."
Can’t say it any clearer.. God thank you for clarity.. sometimes you just need the truth til it hurts. Thank you Lewis.
To all those who have issue with the man cussin’ and using the Bible. He’s talking to some knuckle heads in a language they can understand. Who is anyone to say where this brother’s relationship is with God? Not even Jesus’ message was everyone’s cup of tea. If you find his language offensive, then his tea just isn’t your flavor. It’s okay. But trust, there is at least one person listening and will make a decision to change. Now you take your God-given talent and your flavor of tea and present it someone who will appreciate it.
I agree with ALMOST everything you said. I’m just curious as to why you think that it’s just ‘sex without a condom’ that is restricted to marriage??If you’re gonna quote the scripture then give the FULL truth.. that SEX itself should be reserved for marriage.. condom or otherwise. I’m guessing your angle will be that that’s just the nature of the world we live in and we have to be ‘practical’. I’m not a saint but i think it’s dangerous when we begin to pick which striptural truths we choose to follow and which ones we choose to ignore..Bless
I just finished watching a link to this video on facebook.com and this is exactly what men and women need to hear about relationships. You are real, honest, upfront, straightforward and you speak it like it is with no fear. Also, I totally agree with everything you said (minus the cuss word)… And you’re right. People look at the television and what celebrities are doing with their lives, then, they try to imitate it and follow their footsteps like they would Jesus. But in all actuality, they have problems, and major life issues like any normal, ordinary human being does. America in general need to wake up and stop looking at everything through a tube. Step away from the tv and live the real thing called life.
You are very realistic and true, however, I just want to ask what you define as a marriage. A marriage is not only a ring and legal paper, It is an emotional committment. So if I am with someone ‘doing the most’ both of us may consider our relationship as a marriaage but if I dont have a ring or legal papers to show, does that means I’m single?? I am not refering to a 6mth relationship, I’m speaking of years, when it comes to relationships we cannot generalise because every one is unique and so is each relationship, I do like your 3mth guideline though.
I agree totally all the things you mentioned is where people screwed up when dating, with the hopes that things will workout in their favor and it never does, most times you do end up getting used up!
The information you have is valid, but you need to clean your mouth. Your view points seem bible based, someting you need to think about, otherwise I agree 100%.
I am confused as to what you really stand for bro!!!!!!!!!! I hope you get a chance to review these comments. Below is part of your advice to "women", interesting enough; rule #7 has nothing to do with this video. I am not sure you include your integrity in these bloggs.
Rule #7 Make him spend
Make him spendmoney. Every time he calls you tryin’ to kick it make his ass take yousomewhere. A man’s love is his money and a man’s money is his life. If he takes you out and his intention is just to fuck then you will know whenhe stops tryin’ to take you out because he has not gotten a return on the moneyhe spent. Now if he is genuine he will take you out and not trip becausesex is not his motive. Me personally I like to wait til’ she wants me tohave it. The sex is so much better. I’m sorry…..that was T.M.I.
Lewis….This was MARVELOUS DARLIN’!! I LOVED IT AND COULDNT AGREE MORE!!..As sooon as I meet someone that thinks the same as you and I and we are compatible in the other areas necessary,I will be ready for that RING! LOL
Ppl with this aversion to ‘cussing’ is laughable—drop the bible references and just kick what you speak on brother. These females, esp BLACK women NEED this!!!
Too late to learn a few of these lessons. Everything you said is so true. Especially about playing house. It’s good common sense that I didn’t learn until later in life. I had to experience most of what you said on my own. Noone told me these important facts. For people to disagree with your statements are maybe in denial.
"Doing the most…" I love it. You are right…some people will take offense…oh well. Perhaps they need their reality checks cashed.
I’m handing out my extra bandages. I’ve stopped bleeding.
I just found out about you Via Necolebitchie.comI feel a lot of what you were saying i was in a similar situation and i must say you know your business. I wonder though is this knowledge from experience or from the grapevine ?(side eye). Either way keep it up and as much as it hurts to hear it. It’s REAL TALK !.
You definitely have some VERY valid points in there. Actually, for any woman trying to live the "right" way, its pretty much 100% on point.
I must say though that I have seen more than "1 out of 100" situations of pre-maritial combined living arrangements work. I’ve known a few white couples that have done it, along with black. My cousin is committed to the woman he has been dating for the past few years and they’ve lived together for quite some time, happily (atleast from what I see). They are getting married next year though. Sometimes it just depends on the people in the relationship.
I like your way of seing things. I’m married, I did "marital acts" with my husband before being married, but I tottaly agree with you. My story is a happy one, maybe because I could learn from my mistakes. I have been dumb in the past, I had that stupid, no way going relationship. I needed 4 years to understand that he wasn’t the one for me. Love my husband very much and I feel I can talk to him everything that crosses my mind, at any moment. Love the way I see myself in his eyes.On the other hand I see some of my friends story’s and feel like kiking their love hurt asses.They should use your advices.I just had love luck, but it isn’t enough in a relationship.sorry if my english isn’t great, is not my native language
I saw your video blog "if you’re not married…" the night after i broke up with my boyfriend because i thought it was too much too quickly.He could not understand why , but after the video, i realised i was "doing the most" . And you are so right, because i have lived it. Doing the most is never good if you are not married because it puts you in a place where you begin to either compromise what you want in a relationship or settle for less than what you want.It creates the illusion that you are where you want to be without actually being there, hence creating a problem for you on your road to getting there. There are still some basic principles that we must adhere too, although its hard to hear…but its the truth…and i love you for that…for being so true! ..After the video..i didnt even feel bad about ending the relationship…of over a year..It only made me feel that i did the right thing for sure.
So "True" I really have made some mistakes and im asking God to forgive me right now!
Honestly, I ain’t even mad at you! I agree with MOST of what you have said…I have a question for you though. You keep saying, "this is what I’ve seen/heard" and "this is what I WOULD do" but what have YOU EXPERIENCED?? Have you been through any of these things? No disrespect, I just want to know. I don’t really believe that you can speak on something you haven’t experienced because then you’re just speculating. You’re right about what the Bible says and also a lot of the things you mentioned about setting yourself up for failure. I’m not asking for your life story, I’m just curious to understand whether or not you are speaking from experience and actual wisdom of the things you have been through or simply making assumtions on the way you think things should be based on what you’re heard from other people.
so what if the woman and the man are "doing the most" with each other
Now let me add in the beginning of your broadcast you said that dong the marital acts you are setting yourself up for failure, however, dont you feel that sexual intercourse should also be included in this category of setting yourself up for failure? Or host is this just your comment. Yes you should not move in with someone but having sex is a no no too
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I have a comment about the part where you said about living together isn’t a good idea it’s a marrital act. I agree with you on that but also it’s a great way to see if you guys can make it before you get married. you dont want to marry someone and then find out you can’t stand them because they are sloppy and they can’t clean. thats why people move in together to see all of that before marriage.
The video to me touched my life directly since I have been doing the most for twenty years now. I recently told my long time girl friend if we do not get married within a certain amount of time that i would be leaving. She took it pretty well and I hope we do get married but if we don’t i’m fully ready to move on with my life.
I agree with what you say but you speak of God alot and the profanity you use does not com with any conviction the God and profanity does not go together. We all make mistakes and your message is clearly thought provoking and I really appreciate it but I would not use profanity when talking to my pastor without any conviction….thanks
I totally agree with not shacking up. A lot of brothers have trouble understanding that these days, but I will not live with another man again unless we are married, and I’m in no hurry to be married
Uh. I second that credit check! My girlfriend thought it was being too hard. But I have good credit so why shouldn’t you? In the world that speaks a lot to your character. You can’t pay your bills which usually include necessities to live for adults then what does that say about you? And yes, everyone falls on hard times but if I run into at that time maybe it’s just not the right time. Work on You. I’m new here, I have to see if there’s a vid on it keep up the good work!
okay im not not one for cussing either but this might be a bit of an exception…deacons use wonderful words on the pulpits ‘trying’ to convince us of the same exact things but because of their language, they’re not approachable (people feel defensive when corrected by educated people, or people who sound educated) and no one really even tries to listen to them let alone try and digest or incorporate their words into actions; its quite the opposite with Lewis…i say if it works, do it. changing lives is the goal here…if i have to cuss every other word to change thousands of people lives for the better, well "damn it!" ill do it…lol. plus Lewis isnt too bad with the cussing, its bearable
I am not sure if i got what he sayswith that statement
1) he calls the time you’re committed to someone before your married “engagement”… and if there’s no ring on it then you single… Well.. when you first meet someone and you know them for a couple months… you are GETTING TO KNOW the other person, to see if you guys have the same values and most important if to see if that person acts on those values that you are looking for in a partner (loyal, compassionate, shows selflessness, not a liar, [insert personal criteria here] etc..) and if you guys are compatible and can be in a healthy relationship… so.. I do believe we have to go through ALOT of different ppl before we find one we want to spend the Rest Of Our Life With… the way he says it, it seems like we should act single even tho we’re attached to this person until we ready to get married, isn’t that paradoxal? Its like going from 0 to 100km/h in 2 seconds. Plus, you cannot “be engaged” to every single guy your getting to know…engagement is something you do when your already planning to marry the person and you know(or at least think) they’re “the one”…and if you want to marry every single guy or girl u meet right off the bat without being IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM BEFOREHAND, then you got issues … -you CAN be “not-engaged-yet AKA in the testing-period” and NOT single-
2) He says that if “your in an intimate sexual committed relationship your in a marriage”… but last time I checked… that’s just ADULTERY… before you make if official before GOD and the world (religion wise) then its not a “marriage”, no matter what you invest in the relationship (money, sex, your time, your tears) He may seem smart cause he made up a new word for it (doing the most)…
3) When he says that if you give each other your “word” to not see other ppl and to be exclusive… that if they cheat you shouldn’t be mad/surprised/affected…. If they going to break THAT promise, how are you supposed to trust them to be loyal for the rest of you life? Is it because they swear it in front of the church? its not like when your married, your genitals have a voice recognition password and they only work with you wife/husband..That’s the whole point of dating, that’s the point of the whole “testing-period” i was talking about… to see if that person is straight up or a cheater
4) The only thing I agree with complety is when he says “if your not married it isn’t yours and you Can Not Tell It What To Do” because of course they still in the “testing-period” they can choose to fail or to pass “your test” because they didn’t swear in front of God or the world (religion wise) that they would love, cherich, care and etc..
I especially agree with fasting and praying and asking God if that is the person you should be with or not. So true! And, you are so correct about people wasting time and dating people they are not meant to be with. Valid points.
I agree with most of what you say. However, I think sex period outside of marriage is behaving like a married couple not just sex without a condom.
Excuse me for not taking relationship advice from someone blogging on a website that has "Hustle" in the name…
You need to post this on facebook. That’s real talk!!!!
I’m from Trinidad….I love your message….Trinidad (and Tobagonians) are increasingly becoming influenced by Western culture and the whole Hollywood Phase. I like the way you put your point across…In my country we say it like this…."You doh put water in yuh mouth to say nun…Plain talk, bad manners"…and all of your points are valid…I have personally took this point of view personally and have exercised it…and I have been bashed because of it..I also do see relationships that show no promise or direction as a waste of time…I am 24 going on 25 and I have never had a boyfriend because I am of the belief that if we are friends and I have standards that you do not meet we should not strain ourselves to try to "make it work" because it won’t…don’t get me wrong, i don’t just put up a wall….But and ‘engagement must start somewhere"…If we clashin as friends and you want to cross boundaries that "married people" have…Then you don’t value me and a yourself because we will then be selling each other short of what we really deserve…And it is possible and important to discern as early as possible cues that confirm failure or success…I am not perfect either…But that approach saved me from a lot of heartache amongst other things…I am glad I finally found someone (of the opposite sex) who views the importance of relationships as strongly as I do…Blessings brother Williams
This is some of the realist talk i have heard in a good while! Honestly, this kind of raw truth is becoming extinct. It takes another real person to see past the imperfections and get the beauty of these videos. Alot of people want to continuously refer to his cursing by quoting scriptures. It is easy to try to correct something you can see, but please think about your own hidden imperfections that we cant see about you! God is working on all of us. HE SAW THE BEST IN ME, WHEN EVERYONE ELSE AROUND ME COULD ONLY SEE THE WORST IN ME!!!! SHIT. Pray for me.
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Exactly why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free…. If you have sex and children with someone please don't expect them to marry you. By doing these things you have already defeat the purpose of marriage HELLO?! If he's not willing to marry you then he doesn't think you are worth it, you deserve somebody that is willing to wait and make you theirs permanently… Ladies this guy knows what he's talking about, he has a lot of sense. This is good advice people…
(I also agree with Ann too, I find it really hard to take people serious when they are cursing and talking about God at the same time. You have to pick one, you can really confuse you viewers when you do that. I am a Christian, so I am able to understand that bad habits are a struggle, but to people that aren't saved you may come off has hypocritical. )
But anyways keep up the good work, lot's of ladies as well as men need to hear this stuff.
people need to quit criticizing so much about the use of curse words, it's only cursing if you cursing somebody out. For example, to say, "Shit" if you stub your toe, is different than if you say, "Shit on you" or "Fuck you". Totally different. It's all about the context with which the words are used. Quit putting so much emphasis on that when the message is what's important here. Now that I got that out the way, I believe homeboy gotta very valid point and I appreciate him sharing it. The only issue I have is, and it's not with him, is the government. The government makes it so hard to get a divorce, financially, if you a divorce is needed, based on infidelity, etc.
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