I was told that this is how you do it and that is the only way to do it or you will never make it in life. It’s hard to come to grips 30 years of my life wasted operating in a programmed society and here I am programmed with the rest. Not sure if it’s a cultural thing or a knowledge thing, but I don’t fault my mother for training me to play it safe, hell that’s what mothers do. My Pastor told me years ago “You have a serious issue with rebellion that you need to deal with.” No offense to my Pastor, but this time he was wrong. My issue with authority has been questionable my whole life, but my rebellion to go against it is my blessing. I don’t want to get into a drawn out conspiracy theory no one cares about, but bottom line we are programmed a certain way to keep certain industries stable with money for a long time. Problem is if you pay attention those industries are crumbling and getting exposed around us. I left a cubicle and thought “From now on I’m doing shit my way. Whoever doesn’t like it can kiss my ass.” That day I realized I will utilize action and not excuses. Below is my new rules of operation and how I do it my way:
- Do what makes me happy at the expense or harm of no one.
I am risky with everything I say or do, but I make sure it’s never at the expense of someone else’s feelings. The decisions we make affect others. I never want to be the cause of someone’s hurt. That’s not fair to them that my happiness makes them sad. That would make me no better than Osama Bin Laden or George Bush.
2. Give up everything to start new.
I gave away my bed, TV, sofa, clothes etc. When I moved I knew if I would have brought that stuff into my new apartment I would have never bought new. I slept on the floor. Funny how people laughed at me, but I would rather be on the floor working for myself then in a bed reporting to someone. We are told to hold on to worldly possessions like we can never get it again. Any and everything can be obtained many times. Ghandi says “Practice detachment.” “Blessings can’t flow through the clutter” –Suze Orman
3. I’m not mad at anyone.
When I hear about people’s anger and what they are mad at it’s a shame. He says she says shit is never a reason to hold a grudge. You minimize your life when you hold a beef or grudge especially for the shit most people hold grudges for. I hear the talk about me more than often, but the way I see it “Unless you come to me and tell me directly it doesn’t exist.” You will never see me vent on FB or Twitter about someone. That’s what children do. If I feel some kind of way about what you have done to me I will come see you. I will come see you alone and unarmed. I don’t need extra men or a group of people to boost my morale. I stand alone and I handle what’s mine alone. Beefing and grudges just assure that you are not ready to go to the next level in life cause you still mad at shit that happened last year, but you expect a blessing though.
4. I judge no one.
I judge no one. In the end I don’t know your past for why you are the way you are. People need to come to grips that all people are not wired the same. For years I thought a rapist took sex from women for the pleasure of sex. Recently I found out rapist take sex to control not for the pleasure of sex so I’m thinking “Why the hell would you ruin your life for something you can buy?” But the reason I don’t understand is because I’m not a rapist. Same goes for pedophiles. My first thought is “What man in his right mind wants to have sex with a child?” but the fact is he doesn’t have a right mind. It’s easy to judge because that is not your issue, but the fact is these people have an issue. I hear men judge gay men, but the way I see it “If you like men like I like women I’m having a hard time judging you.” Now I’m not saying any of this is ok, but understand we are all not wired the same and what works for you doesn’t work for others. If I placed their issue in your body you would have a whole new concept of understanding. Another thing we should know about condemning is in the other party’s eyes they are never wrong so why bother? All it causes is a heated conversation and adds an addition to the list of more people that don’t like you. The flesh makes you feel gratified when you call someone out or tell someone about themselves, but it’s a myth. In actuality you just fueled hate. If they don’t see how they were wrong you just wasted your time.
5. Dreams cost so spend it.
If I told you to bring your dream to life cost $2000.00 you would say “damn that’s too much” or “I can’t get it done cheaper?” I have a website company (GotWebsites. me) and I talk to people everyday about their dream and most have 100 excuses as to why they can’t make their dream happen or move it forward, but yet you say it’s your dream. Now let’s do the math. You have spent well over that much money on a slew of things that didn’t do shit for your dream. Here it is in plain English for those of you who don’t get it “NO ONE WILL EVER PAY YOU ENOUGH. YOU WILL NEVER LIVE A LIFE OF HAPPINESS. YOU WILL NEVER OWN WHAT YOU WANT TO OWN, YOU WILL NEVER BE RICH OR WEALTHY IF YOU DO NOT DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.” I always hear about the wants and needs of people and honestly it’s a sad conversation cause in actuality you will never have it. You work a job or a career that will never pay you what you want or need to live great. It’s the illusion you bought to play it safe, but it’s not real. The sooner you stop lying to yourself the sooner you can actually live well. And if you ask “What if I spend the money and it doesn’t work?” just keep in mind you have spent the money on a lot of shit in your life and guess what? None of it worked.
6. A chapter a day keeps ignorance at bay.
So I read a chapter a day in a knowledgeable book. The problem with most people is that we don’t read and if we do its bullshit that will never help us out in the long run. My clients like me because I know a lot. Gordon Gecko in the first Wall Street movie with Charlie Sheen said “Information is the #1 commodity.” The reason you are afraid to read certain kinds of books because it will expose that you have been miseducated. The way money and progression works and how you think money and progression works is 2 different things. Always remember: Out of the top 10 billionaires only 3 have degrees and they only have 1 degree. No masters, no doctors, just 1 degree.
7. Do well by your people.
Take care of your family. I’m not saying endure their issues or take on their problems, but lend a helping hand, but not at the expense of enabling them. If you got lazy cousins that need money then no, but if you have cousins that are trying and are short money then yes.
8. Circle shift.
We often use the term friends loosely. From what I have seen most people are not your friends it’s just a title to call them because you don’t know what else to call them. I had to change my circle because being messy, fucking hoes, and fronting like you have money never suited me well at all. I would rather actually put in the work to have. The way I see it “If I can’t call you for $250 because I lost my wallet I’m in the wrong circle.” Broke brings broke and rich brings rich. A lot of times you can’t move forward because of the people around you. They talk broke, act broke, do broke things that’s not ok. If that’s how they want to operate that’s fine, but I don’t have to stay and endorse this shit. I’m out. I had someone say to me “White folk aren’t helping us out.” Sad part is I have heard this too many times from too many black people and it’s the most ignorant bullshit I have ever heard out of a black person’s mouth. I have white clients and white people that give me infinite info as long as I ask. I am starting a liquor delivery service and I sat with a white man that not only gave me all info and more, but gave me his personal cell if he needed more then told me “The moment you open I’m your first order.” I hear this because it is the talk amongst ignorant ass circles. If you choose ignorance that’s on you but I won’t take part.
9. If I don’t start it I will never know. If you build it they will come.
I can have dreams of having tons of things, but if I never start I will never know. I tell everyone to just start. I talk to people with all kinds of dreams and love to talk about it, but they will never start. Not sure if it’s fear or lazy, but whatever it is get rid of that shit. You will never get anything or anywhere not starting. If you build it people will come. People love to become a part of something or support something new cause that’s how they are wired. I make sure everything I do or put out is quality so people will take it seriously and respect it. No one supports half ass or trash. I have had a few clients say “Well I can go to Vistaprint or Wix and build a website for very cheap” and my reply is “After you build it take a look at it and tell me if it wasn’t your business would you support you.” You get what you pay for so make sure you make it right. If it looks half ass or lacking people will look, laugh, and move on to the person that looks quality. Presentation is everything.
10. The Get it Done Factor
Just get it done. Believe it or not this is hard for most people. I have actually had to fire some people for lack of getting it done. The problem is in their eyes they were doing well. I don’t fault them though. With some people operating half ass or when they feel like it works for them. There are success and truth in getting it done. There is great reward in finishing what you started. Don’t wait for a hook up or someone you know. If they are not moving fast enough then pay the money and get it done. You can not always operate on a low end because you are waiting on someone. Your success does not depend on another man. It is no one elses fault that you are behind. My back up has a back up cause I am huge on starting and closing. Your success relies solely on your ability to get it done. Here is my letter to one guy:
Dear So and So,
I have waited a week and a half for a change that I sent to India and got done in less than 12 hours. My apologies, but it’s best we end out business relationship. It’s not that I have anything against you its your ability to get it done that I have to make this decision. From a business standpoint your reasons for not getting it done doesn’t match the timeline of the length it took for you to not get it done. I don’t want to say I wish you the best because that’s a lame way to leave you. I wish you the best after you develop the skill of getting it done. Understand that if you were proficient at getting it done I wouldn’t be writing this email. I’m sure its not only me its other aspects of your life that you are not finished with. You can win at life because you have the knowledge to do so, but putting off a task is what’s holding you back from reaching full potential. Once you develop that skill and feel like you are ready email me and we can start over.
Sincerely Lewis H. Williams III
Now of course I never heard from his ass again cause most people would rather stay the same than to change cause change takes work and forces you to change your entire life completely. I would rather uplift than condemn so regardless I left him with the necessary knowledge to win at life either way.
I was told I don’t have a girlfriend because I lack commitment. At the same time I see people in relationships who say they do and really don’t and then it dawned on me “Where does my commitment stand in my entire life?” I had to assess where my commitment stood in life in general. Looks like I lacked commitment in everything from going to the gym, book, etc. My commitment lacked in all areas so I changed that. I joined Crossfit and said “Regardless of the pain I’m in this bitch 5 days a week.” 4 months later I’m still in there 5 days a week and I now have a whole new body that surprises me every morning I’m in the mirror with no shirt on. I also purchased plants and I am committed to watering them daily and they started from seeds now they are sprouting into full grown plants. Commitment actually takes developing and time. When people say they are in a committed relationship you’re lying. Unless you’re married you’re not in one. Commitment is forever. Just say you are exclusively dating someone at the time, but committed you are not.
12. I’m no better.
My sister often ask me why I go to different cities and take pictures with bums and homeless people. In all honesty I’m no better. The moment you think your life is worth more than the next you lose yourself. No one is more powerful than time. We rush to take pictures with people who don’t remember us in 5 minutes for a photo that promotes them and not us. It will get 100’s of comments that you got a pic with some one who again will not remember you after 5 minutes. I’d rather take a pic with a guy that will atleast remember me longer than that. I always feed them, always cloth them, always give to them. Today you can be ok and on top, but tomorrow can tell another tell. No one is better than living on the street. It can happen to anyone. I often judge people by the way they treat others. I went on a date where the girl treated the wait staff like shit. She never heard from me again. She texted and she called, but I can’t talk to someone who takes the opportunity to treat someone who they feel is lower than them like shit every chance they get. You’ll do me the same way if given the opportunity. Remember this:
Time is Powerful
When a bird is alive… it eats Ants ~ When the bird is dead… Ants eat the bird!
So… Time & Circumstances can change at any time…
Don’t devalue or hurt anyone in life.
You may be powerful today… But Remember… Time is more powerful than You
One tree makes a million match sticks… But when the time comes…Only one match stick is needed to burn a million trees…
Be careful who you step on today cause they can have the opportunity to step on you tomorrow.
I literally had to re raise myself to be happy. Forced to create the truth as I know it versus the truth I was taught. But I refuse for someone to tell me how and when to live and if you have a job that’s the life you choose. If you feel like that’s not true then take a vacation with no vacation days left and you will quickly learn that you cannot live when you want. You choose the life you want to live or choose the excuses you want to utilize to convince you not to live the life you want to live. Either way I don’t do vacation days I do “whenever I feel like it” days.